Day sixteen: favorites

What is your favorite book/movie/song? Why?

Ooooh! This is a fun question, but SO hard to narrow it down to one for each category. What entertainment I’m drawn to typically depends on my mood. However, these gems have stayed consistent throughout most of my life:

Book: Little Women by Louisa May Alcott

Movie: A Little Princess

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Song: “Hey Jude” by the Beatles

What are some of your favorites?

Onwards & Upwards…

Day fifteen: memories

Imagine you’re in your 90s. What memories would you like to have? What stories do you want to tell?

I want my life to be filled with memories of travel, laughter, and love.

Of family gatherings and holidays.

Times when I triumphed over hardship and came out stronger.

How I inspired people and makes a difference.

I want to tell of how I met my husband and our wedding day.

Welcoming our children and grandchildren into the world.

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What memories and stories do you want to share someday?

Follow along with my 25 question personal growth exercise!

Onwards & Upwards…

Day fourteen: skills

What practical skills do you wish you had?

There are several practical skills that I wish I had! Specifically mechanical skills – fixing appliances around the house, changing a tire/oil in my car, etc. Having those skills would certainly cut down on repair bills. But since I am not blessed with them, I can look at it as I am helping support local businesses!

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Are you good at fixing things, unlike me?

Onwards & Upwards…

Day thirteen: admirable qualities

What qualities do you admire in others?

This question reminds me a lot of question #5: “Think of a person you truly admire. What qualities do you like about that person?” so I am going to piggy-back off my previous answer as they are very similar.

kindness

 patience

humor 

perseverance

faith

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What qualities do you admire in others?

Onwards & Upwards…

Day twelve: (re)connect

Who would you like to connect (or reconnect) with? Why?

This question is easier for me to answer than yesterday’s was. I have been wanting to re-connect with my college friends for awhile, but after traveling to Chicago with my boyfriend to see some of his old roommates I have become more motivated to do so.

I transferred schools after my freshman year and ironically I still feel more connected to about four or five friends I met on the other side of the country than the ones that live close to me now. Maybe because I really relied on them for support after moving so far from home. I was really lucky to fall in with such a solid and fun group of people. Freshman year of college is a difficult transition, but I didn’t realize how special our connection was until I transferred (homesickness) and did not have the same experience at my new school.

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I have been back to visit several times. It helps having family nearby to combine trips/travel expenses. Each year it becomes harder to stay close. It is tough when we are all in different phases of our lives – some in grad school, married, working full-time, etc. I hate to use “distance” and “busy schedules” as excuses, but life happens. I do have plans to meet up with one of my friends before I head back home from a family reunion next weekend. Unfortunately it falls on Father’s Day so everyone else already has plans. At least I’m making the effort!

Who do you want to reconnect with?

Onwards & Upwards…

Day eleven: regrets

If life stopped today, what would you regret not doing?

Wow, these questions just keep getting deeper and deeper! In short, I regret not being more assertive. I regret not saying “no.” For not standing up for myself in potentially harmful situations because I was worried what others would think of me. My self-esteem has always been pretty low and at times has inhibited me from reaching my full potential (professionally, socially, spiritually, etc.).

I do believe that self-esteem and assertiveness go hand-in-hand. As I become more aware of instances where I did NOT have the confidence, leading me to make poor choices, I feel like I have to “fight” harder not to slip into my old ways. As much work as it is, look forward to becoming more assertive and hopefully having less regrets.

And sometimes, just sometimes, I regret not going to grad school right after I received my undergraduate degree.

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What do you regret NOT doing? 

Onwards & Upwards…

Day ten: afraid

What are you most afraid of?

I think it’s funny how Dictionary.com defines “fear” as a noun – person, place, or thing. When I think about fear, I tend to think about fear in more “abstract” terms. A lot of “what ifs” versus being afraid of heights, spiders, and other phobias. I fear missing out, making the wrong decision, making mistakes, rejection, what could go wrong, the unknown… 

I’ve always been a chronic over-thinker which heightens my anxiety and create problems that don’t even exist (and most likely won’t occur). Lately I have realized just how much my thoughts have been counter-productive. I have actually ended up missing out on certain opportunities because I was afraid on the what could happen and trying to “predict the future.” Now I work on challenging the legitimacy of my anxious thoughts (a lot of rationalizing self-talk), being proactive, and having faith that everything will work out. I will leave you with a few of my favorite quotes about fear:

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What threatens your mental and/or physical well-being? 

Onwards & Upwards…