Well, the final day of this challenge is here with the all important question:
How do you want to be remembered in life?
A positive influencer
I want to inspire others, particularly women to be strong both mentally and physically.
Not to settle for anything or anyone. Ever!
I want to be seen as a holy person, a role model for people younger and older than me.
To encourage others not to give up or quit when times get tough.
When times do inevitable get tough, people will think of me and say to themselves, “because she did it, I can do it!” and they will stay motivated.
Can you relate to any of these things?
Onwards & Upwards…
What piece of advice would you give to five year old you? Sixteen year old you? Twenty-one year old you? Right now?
Five year old me:
Keep playing. Never stop learning. It’s okay to be shy, but don’t let it stop you from making new friends and trying new activities
Sixteen year old me:
Stop comparing yourself to others. You are not “fat” – don’t be so hard on yourself. Research and visit as many colleges as you can – start soon. Don’t worry so much about what other people think
Twenty-one year old me:
(See above and add…) Don’t settle – on a job, boy, etc. Stand up for yourself and be firm in your beliefs. DON’T GIVE UP. Trust in God’s plan and everything will work out.
Right now me:
Trust the process and enjoy the “now.”
Onwards & Upwards…
The other night I guess you could say that I went on a first date. I had dinner with a guy I’ve known for over a year through the young adult group at church. I was a bit reluctant to go. I’m still in the process of getting over my ex (fiance), a three year relationship. I figured that I need to put myself out there, to meet potentially better guys, so I can move forward with my life and stop wallowing in the past.
The night went well. Good conversation, as I had assumed it would be. I went in with low expectations, not that I didn’t care, but in the past setting my expectations too high has left me with disappointed. It was not THE best date.
The best first date I had was with my ex-fiancé. I was head over heels, I even texted my mom and brother afterwards because I was so excited – this was very uncharacteristic of me. I had always preferred to play it safe and keep things to myself until I was more sure of where things were going. But somehow with him, I just “knew” things were different.
Now it know it’s not fair to compare. These guys are almost opposite of each other in many ways. Plus things are still relatively fresh with my ex.
I guess that I was hoping that if I had an amazing time with someone else it would reassure me that things with my ex are 100% over and there was hope for a new relationship down the road.
I do want to be fair and give this other guy chance. Go out a few more times. It’s just hard because I don’t want to lead him on either.
I really need to “date myself,” but once I get home I’m so unmotivated to leave and nothing sounds enticing.
Time will tell. Until it does, I’ll just have to be as patient as I can be…
What piece of dating advice has been most helpful to you?!
Also, TGIF! Any plans for Valetine’s weekend?